Has anyone noticed that texting is one of the most dangerous ways to communicate with people?
Clearly, all of this falls into what I would call, Communicative Intelligence, which I, perhaps patting myself a little on the back, have.
Years ago, when I was still in a F2F (face to face) classroom, I remember the massive amounts of communication that I was responsible for. It was with students, their parents, fellow teachers and administrators, and for all sorts of different reasons. As a high school teacher, I had many hats to wear and through the years, not only was I teaching students from freshmen through senior year, I was in charge of a club and also of a language lab and responsible for a an exchange program with a sister school in France as well as even a stint as head of the Faculty Senate. My communication efforts were really important.
I remember, back in the day, that all of the people with whom I communicated, had different Communicative Intelligences. I quickly tried to learn which form I needed to work on with them. Some people were great on the phone whereas others were better in an e-mail. Within the building, in particular, I realized that I could get more out of some people with a personal note than I could with an e-mail or a phone call. Whether we like it or not, we are human and have preferences and more often than not, we have slight disabilities in certain areas and communication can well be one of them. I even had a select list of people for whom a personal visit was de rigueur if I were to get anywhere.
Currently, texting has been added to our list of communication systems and, well, I have found that some people are just not good at it. They continue to read things between the lines that are just not accurate and sometimes don’t see the actual focus of the text. Perception is perception, however, and we must go with that flow. We thus have to adjust our communication to allow for that.
With some people, I know that if I have to communicate via texting, that I have to keep it simple and direct. Some people cannot deal with a large amount of information and words.
With some people, putting more than one idea in a text or e-mail means that they will only see one of the ideas and focus entirely on that.
Damn, life is certainly complicated. Add into that: Pandemic, World and National chaos, a dictator wannabe, and the list goes on…